I’m upset because…

my hus­band didn’t take out the trash, the kids didn’t pick up their toys, my girl­friends went out with­out telling me, the kitchen sink is clogged and the repair man never showed, etc…  The list goes on and on.  These all sound like nor­mal things to get upset about, right?  In col­lege when I took a Coun­sel­ing 101 course, this was the model we actu­ally learned to be able to speak our upsets in a calm and col­lected man­ner.  We were to start our sen­tences with, “I’m upset because…”  and then fill in the blank.  Those were the good ole’ days.

For those of us on the meta­phys­i­cal path that have given up vic­tim­hood, we know that the only way that state­ment can ever be true is if we end it with, “I’m upset because… I’ve cho­sen to dis­con­nect from my own well-being in this moment.”  Our upset is always a choice we make and never the fault of any­one out­side of our­selves.  This of course is both the good and the bad news of the sit­u­a­tion.  And even though I feel like these teach­ings have gone quite main­stream over the past decade or so, it is still sur­pris­ing to me to hear how many peo­ple are still choos­ing to play the role of the vic­tim in their own lives.   And, I am still sur­prised by my own reac­tions to cer­tain peo­ple in my own life.  I swear, it really feels like cer­tain peo­ple bug the crap out of me!  Instead of… cer­tain peo­ple acti­vate the parts of me I can’t stand about myself.  I feel so fine when I am alone that it really does feel like they are the prob­lem and not me.  But alas, deep down I know the issue is mine and mine alone and luck­ily for me I have some very good friends who let me get away with noth­ing!  They call me on all my pro­jec­tions and help me to see the parts of myself I really want to ban.

What about you?  Do you sur­round your­self with friends that let you get away with your lim­i­ta­tions or call you out on them?

 

Category: Law of Attraction, Relationships